This entry is part 2 of 9 in the series Feel Positive in Tough Times

Power Skill 1

Harness your ability to keep cool

Let’s take an in-depth look at the concept of resilience. 


Resilience is the ability to move forward by growing through every part of life’s process. Struggling is a natural part of living. What matters is how we react to struggle. 

It’s easy to let difficulty keep us down. It isn’t easy to stay afloat when the waters are rocky, and it’s okay to feel that struggle. Resilience is associated with toughness. Part of being robust means admitting to difficulty and working through it instead of ignoring it. 

These myths often get in the way of resilience and slow down progress:

 1. Myth: Resilient people don’t feel sad. This is a common misconception. Being tough doesn’t mean that you cannot feel any emotions. Re-building starts by looking at the damage and understanding it, so you can move forward.

2. Myth: Resilient people don’t take breaks. This myth is false because the sustainability of your lifestyle is of the utmost importance, and that means structuring your time to include self-care. It’s not easy to stay consistent with considering yourself when you have so much going on.

3. Myth: You were either born resilient, or you never will be. Contrary to this belief, it’s entirely possible to strengthen your resilience on purpose. Skills to build this ability are straightforward and will make significant, positive changes in your life.

4. Myth: If you’re not resilient, it only means you have a bad attitude. A negative mindset can slow down progress, but it isn’t the deciding factor in resilience. Strengthening resilience also has to do with taking decisive action and changing negative behaviors.

5. Myth: Resilience is only beneficial in times of difficulty. This belief is false because the skills involved in resilience positively impact all areas of life. They improve relationships, enthusiasm, and drive, regardless of the state of your life.

6. Myth: If you’re resilient, you won’t have any more problems. Unfortunately, life isn’t always perfect. It ebbs and flows, and we cannot control it. Implementing these skills as habits will help you in times of ease and times of stress. 


Benefits of Strengthening Your Resilience 

When you practice the skills that go into being resilient, you’ll notice positive changes in your life. Bouncing back from adversity doesn’t mean that things will just get back to normal, but that they will get to an even better place.

Consider these benefits:

1. Resilience strengthens motivation, and drive. You’ll begin to feel more empowered when you practice these resilience skills. For example, being able to look at a situation objectively will help you take more responsibility for your happiness. This will strengthen your confidence and willingness to take risks.

2. Resilient people make good leaders. Part of being resilient means knowing what you can do and being transparent about what you struggle with. Good leaders can admit when they need extra support. Strengthening resilience will increase your ability to problem-solve and ask for direction.

 3. Self-awareness and self-motivation increase when resilience increases. Knowing yourself means knowing when too much is on your plate and when you need to take a break. Setting boundaries with people, work, and yourself will get easier as you practice resilience skills.

 4. Improving resilience will build your ability to accept the truth of what life throws your way. You’ll always know that things will get better, and you’ll find that you worry less about the worst-case-scenario. 


How to Put These New Skills Into Practice 

It can appear challenging to implement new habits, especially when they involve making significant changes in your life. Keep in mind that you can learn something from everything you encounter, and this is an excellent opportunity to learn something that will improve your self-worth and enthusiasm for life. 

When you’re learning something new, it’s easy to beat yourself up for not getting it immediately. Let go of self-judgment and try something new. If it doesn’t work out the first time, see what might work for you in the future and go from there. Go easy on yourself when you’re seeing what works for you. 

Keeping a written, or audio journal can help you get your thoughts out so that you don’t have to keep them in your brain. Sometimes it can be overwhelming to have so many thoughts swirling around like a whirlpool.

Writing it out can help ease that feeling. or if you are uncomfortable with writing, use a voice app on your phone and record your thoughts. Set a timer for 10 minutes and write or speak whatever comes to you, even if it doesn’t seem to make sense. 

One of the skills you’ll learn emphasizes the importance of building a community. You can use this skill to implement changes you want to make by asking for accountability. Having people around you who know the changes you’re trying to make will remind you of your goals. 

As your self-awareness improves, so will your ability to maintain a positive outlook on your progress. When you consider the progress you’ve made, you’ll be more confident in your ability to grow. 

Part of resilience is facing difficult things head-on. That can bring up some difficult emotions. We will explore how to handle those emotions in the next skill.